Avoidant attachment in men leaves traces—sometimes in what they say, but more often in what they never do.
June 22, 2025|Unwritten & Understood
Author’s Note:
Took myself back in time.
You’ve been there
Some boys don’t lose their shadow.
They live in it—sheltered, hidden, never questioned.
This isn’t about heartbreak.
It’s about the kind of immaturity that leaves ripples in places it never had the courage to stay.
The kind that lets children wonder what they did wrong.
This is for the ones left holding the silence.
Some Boys Don‘t Lose Their Shadow. They Hide In It.
The only difference between him and Peter Pan
is that Peter lost his shadow—
and missed it.
This one?
He lives in his.
Walks inside it.
Lets it speak for him
when truth gets too loud.
Peter chased wonder.
This one avoids mirrors.
Neither of them grew up—
but only one
ever admitted it.
Some boys never become men.
They just study the role,
wear the uniform,
and smile on cue.
Until a child asks for something simple—
a number,
a connection,
a friendship worth keeping—
and the boy inside the shadow
can’t even breathe.
So he disappears.
Again.
And the silence left behind
becomes a lesson
no child should have to learn.
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